Building people up isn't about making them feel like broken junk. It's about showing them their richness and completeness in Christ.
If I constantly paint them pictures of chaos and destruction, then we shouldn't be surprised when that is produced in their lives.
The blessing of God produces blessed people! When we paint over and over that by God's free gift of Christ, everyone can be loving, strong and wise in the earth. Guess what is produced - loving, strong and wise people!
We have much work to do to build people up when they have been beat down for so long.
Keep painting the blessing and not the curse!